Chances are you already know the importance of carefully selecting a photographer for your wedding. What you may not know are these tips to get the most out of your wedding photos. They’re simple; and best of all, they cost you nothing while making the biggest impact!
1. CHOOSE YOUR POSSE
Lots of couples are misinformed when it comes to this part. They think the key to incredible photos starts with a killer photographer or an incredible location – absolutely those things help, but…
What really matters are the PEOPLE you choose to surround yourselves with.
At the end of the day, the world's most talented photographer in the most insane location can't change the people they're photographing.
So carefully choosing your peeps is imperative!
Please don't misunderstand me, I do not mean you should choose the hottest or fittest people in your friend group. Instead I recommend that you choose the people who want to be there. The ones who adore you. The ones who are going to have the most incredible time with you. If for a single moment you think a person might make the day about them, be rude or disrespectful to you or anyone else, or kill your vibe...
(Listen up! I’m about to give you the permission you may not realize you’re looking for.)
YOU DON'T HAVE TO CHOOSE THEM.
This does not mean they are bad people, or that you are a bad person. They just aren’t the right people for this job!
Instead try to choose people who get along with each other, or at the very least can be amicable for you. These people are going to spend a lot of time together and will need to be able to respectfully interact with one another. It’ll be super uncomfortable if they're throwing daggers and exchanging eye rolls – or worse, distracting you from what’s most important that day – YOUR JOY! You don't have to add negativity to any stress you may already feel.
Ok – now that we have that out of the way.
2. NO WALLFLOWERS
Lots of times inquiries include things like 'we don't like/want staged awkward photos’ 'we prefer candid natural shots.'
I hear you! I want to create an atmosphere that helps you feel relaxed so we can tell your story in a way that feels authentic to you. I want to capture your day as it was and highlight all the amazing people in your lives.
Trust me when I say, the best photos happen when there's movement. Don’t take yourselves too seriously during portrait time. It's my job to capture you looking incredible, it’s your job to relish in this beautiful moment. I’ve got you!
So, if I happen to pop on some music and say, ‘Let's dance!’ then get up and move! Don't worry; I'll be moving with you—no lame middle school side to side slow dancing. Get crazy, get lose – show off some moves you've only performed in the dimmest lit rooms, home alone while cooking/cleaning, or throw in some high school flashbacks. This is your time to shine. If you're like me and have the dance movements of a newborn moose, just do big movements, swing wide, kick up the dirt, wobble, if you have a partner swing them around, throw them up – have a wild time. That my friend is how YOU make the magic happen. Just have fun!
We won't always dance – running, walking, jumping, climbing – we'll be doing all kinds of things, but, don't worry you won't need finesse or to be in top physical condition for any of them. All you need is a can-do attitude.
3. EMBRACE IT
Unless the wind is showing everyone your undergarments, work that breeze like it's your own personal wind machine. I know you spent a lot time for your hair to stay that way, but Mother Nature is going to do her thing, you can't fight it. The best thing to do is to let it be, go crazy and stare down the camera like a mountain top god/goddess.
I know it can feel like the most annoying thing in the world when that wind or rain picks up but if I see that weather on the radar, I quietly get a little excited. I know these portraits are going to have a lot movement, moody/dramatic skies, and look insane. Movement = EPICNESS.
4. MAKE THE TIME
I know you don't want to spend too much time away from your guests. I understand, you're there to party with them!
So, let's be smart about it.
Prioritize time where you want it the most. If group photos are one of the most important things you want, be sure you make time for it.
OR
Choose a venue or location that doesn't require a lot of travel to save you time between locations. Have a cocktail hour that allows your guests to mingle, so when we slip out for photos, it won't be too obvious, and the party will continue.
The key part is planning. Create a timeline that allows you to organize a day that feels relaxed and flows – that way you're not rushing from one thing to the next and can soak it all in.
CARVE OUT MOMENTS INSTEAD OF TIME.
Moments with your family during prep, moments with your friends into the night, private moments with your lover during the day. You’re planning a day to celebrate your love; the photos are just the by-product. Get this nailed down and the photos are always going to be amazing.
5. TRUST
Photographers have a different perspective and lots of experience putting it into practice. You might be asked to try something weird, like go into a dingy dark place, but, TRUST me. I've got a vision and it's going to be good! When you tell a creative to just go for it, it gives us permission to take bigger risks and try things that haven't been done, playing it safe gives you predictable, going big gives you extraordinary and something all your own.
6. ALL ABOUT THAT LIGHT
You've probably heard photographers go on about this before, but Lighting is important! It's a Photographer's language.
Think about lighting during your planning, what time the sun will set, which rooms have the brightest light, do you have enough illumination after dark? You would be surprised what a difference a few strung lights can make to the atmosphere.
AND, I always suggest planning a little sneak away session around sunset, especially in summer, when the sunset isn't until later into the evening. This allows your guests to still enjoy themselves and you and your sweetie a moment for a few intimate photos and time together.
7. FEED ‘EM
Hangry is a real thing; I may know from personal experience...
Keeping your posse fed is vital – especially if you’re throwing back cold ones.
Make sure you to build in time to eat; grab some snacks or take a cheese platter on the road when we’re headed to portrait locations. It's a simple thing but can make a huge difference in your experience.
8. COMMUNICATE
If you have big things planned like, fireworks, smoke bombs, bareback on a horse, choreographed dance moves, drag races, air balloon drops, helicopter rides… Or even low key, intimate moments like first looks, gift reveals, etc. Tell us!
Your vendors are all about this stuff. And we're so excited to make it happen with you. Make sure you communicate early as there may be restrictions, advised locations, or times of the day that are going to work best.
Remember your venders have most likely seen something similar before or know how to make it work best for you. We love being involved with something big or special. So, if you're dreaming about something, let us know, we’d love to help.
9. LET YOUR HAIR DOWN
As your photographer, I'm here to capture you in your true form! So, get weird, let your freak flag fly… don't play shy and avoid being yourself. The best photos happen when you let your guard down and just go for it.
10. NO PROPS NEEDED
I know you’ve been scrolling Instagram and Pinterest. But don’t get overwhelmed by the things you think you need to make your wedding epic. The truth is you don’t need ‘things’ to create beautiful images.
I may use props that’s true, but they're typically random and not something you need to worry about. The best props present themselves at the most opportune time. They are the pick-up truck the groomsmen left around the corner, the golf cart your riding around in, or the bridesmaid's phone to help backlight you. It's the things that just magically appear that are a part of YOUR story and unique to your day. Of course, if you have your heart set on something specific, just let me know so we can plan on it!
So, props aren't a needed. Instead, spend time creating an environment where you're comfortable enough to be yourself, to try different things, and just have a wild time.
Back in February, and pre-Corona in Maine, I met up with Hannah and Aaron, for their engagement session.
Hannah LOVES goats so the Knotty Goat Soapery farm in Winterport was a perfect fit.
It really made the whole experience fantastic because the joy she exuded during the time we spent on the farm was so natural and beautiful.
And Aaron kept her laughing with his charm and witty sense of humor.
They truly are the sweetest couple with a powerful, long lasting love story. Despite the pandemic setting their wedding plans back a year, I have no doubts these two will still be holding on and laughing together in the many years to come.
And I look forward to capturing this moment when they are finally pronounced husband and wife.
Wishing them all the best.
I have not been in love with myself, especially my body, for as long as I can remember. I have, however, made a conscious effort since having my daughter in 2004 to be mindful of how I speak about myself and body and how I speak to her and her brother about theirs. I wanted to make sure I did my very best to set them up to love themselves and see the wonder and beauty in everything they are. I could not prevent the rest of the world from thrusting their opinions on them, but, I could control how I laid the groundwork for their own self-love and how they perceived other people’s bodies. I never spoke poorly of the appearance of my body or theirs, but instead talked about all the wonderful things they could do. Things like:
“your legs are bigger than your friends’ because you spend hours dancing and building muscle which makes you strong.”
“Mommy’s belly is soft and squishy because it grew you and kept you safe until you were ready to greet the world.”
“Yes, honey, I see...what a neat trick.”
Sometimes the conversations are a bit awkward, I’ll admit, but I can mirror wonder and excitement, while following it up with privacy guidance.
I digress...
I’ve tried really hard to make sure my children understood the functionality, purpose, and amazing things their bodies can do, were designed to do, etc. rather than placing focus on their appearance. Now don’t get me wrong, it still comes up, but I try to reinforce those foundational concepts. Bodies are different, bodies do amazing (and funny) things, and bodies have certain capabilities that allow them to do even more incredible things as they grow. No body is like another. There is no mold from which people are made. Everyone is different. Everyone is perfectly imperfect.
Hmmm… sound guidance from a self-loathing fraud. Who was I really speaking to all these years? Certainly, my kids, but a shift started happening in me as I started listening to the words I was speaking, without realizing I was listening. I was so focused on the kids, the chaos of parenting, surviving adult life, and its obstacles. (A post for another time perhaps…)
That photo on my desk is one of a handful of my husband and I since our wedding, 12.5 years ago. That photo is a reminder of the only trip my husband and I were blessed to experience, just the two of us, in nearly 19 years. That wonderful and {insert all the words here that I cannot begin to think of to describe Aruba and the most incredible reset/recharge of my life} vacation pulled me away from my day to day 'chaos coordinating'. Seven days of being in the moment – mostly unplugged, trying new things, reconnecting, rekindling, gaining perspective, and getting excited about life again. Seven days of removing myself from all the things that I didn’t know were weighing me down.
That photo is a moment of time, I don’t want to forget. Sure, it’s a cell phone pic, a “non-flattering” pose, {insert all the reasons and excuses to never let it see the light of day}, but it means so much to me. It’s my reminder to live, not survive.
The person I was, is no longer the person I am, nor the person I am becoming. It has taken time to get here. It required fear of having children that would grow up to hate themselves and place their value in their appearance. It required deep reflection, persuasion, and lots of frustration from those around me (like my husband) trying to convince me I was enough; just the way I was. It has taken scary and significant events to understand that life is happening, now. Life isn’t waiting for me to be svelte and perfect to be photographed or worthy of people’s time. Life isn’t waiting for me to be unafraid. The people I love are here and now and they want me to be with them… here and now. A tomorrow with them is not promised to me.
So that photo is up for the world to see because that photo means the world to me.
Every now and then you meet people by chance.
You watch them from a distance. A silent spectator. You see their joy, their struggles, and their pain. You cheer them on as they overcome.
And sometimes, you are given the opportunity to be a part of their story.
I met Megan several years back during a blind model call. Our ideals of female models in society matched and meeting another photographer with similar feelings on making women feel beautiful with the skin they are currently in made it an easy partnership to foster.
Megan doted on her husband a lot during that first session. Smitten is a great way to describe it. Utterly, and completely in love with the man of her dreams. Most certainly, his biggest cheerleader too!
Photographing Megan was easy and natural. The conversation flowed like that of old friends just catching up on life.
It would be a long time before we met up again, and during that period of time Megan and Jeff experienced more moments of joy and unfortunately heartache as well. During that time I was the silent spectator, the bystander peering into the world of two beautiful people, praying they'd pull through.
And they did.
Congratulations Megan & Jeff. Many blessing to you both and the sweet little life you've created.
Thank you for bearing the frigid temperatures, wind, and snow/hail mother nature bestowed on us in April.
Below is a post I shared on my Facebook page in December 2017, regarding my volunteer work with a local ministry. I love being a part of the good work being done locally. Do you volunteer? Leave me a comment and tell me what you're up to!
My heart thrives on bringing joy and meeting the needs of others. It could be something as simple as making a home cooked meal or a special treat for my family; sharing a genuine compliment with an unsuspecting recipient; giving to others where I can at no cost to them, whether that be items that no longer serve a purpose in my home, money, basic necessities or it could even be a coffee at the drive thru; or one of my favorites… providing a comfortable and fulfilling experience that culminates with beautiful portraits of you and/or your family. Life gets busy... so busy with family, kids, school, work, activities, etc. Sometimes, finding the opportunity to give back feels like a chore and one more thing we’re trying to tick off the mounting list of responsibilities we have at the beginning of each day.
But, when you get to do something for someone else in a genuine, heartfelt way… When the gift you give comes back to bless you in ways you never expected. Those are the times when giving, isn’t hard. Those are the times when giving, is easy. Sure it might be nerve wracking and scary at first when you don’t know what to expect. But, taking a small risk of stepping outside your comfort zone to meet a small desire of someone else’s heart; there’s no comparison to that.
For almost a year now, I’ve been on the call list as a volunteer photographer for the Shepherd’s Godparent Home and Nikki’s Hope in Bangor, ME. The Shepherd’s Godparent Home is a no cost residential shelter for young women who are pregnant and in crisis. Nikki’s Hope is their parenting transition apartment where mom and baby can stay for a period of time while permanent housing is secured. What I love about this place is that they offer women hope, healing, safety/security, opportunity, understanding, wisdom, encouragement, and empowerment to pick them up and move them forward with love, compassion, and care. The Shepherd’s Godparent Home and Nikki’s Hope is truly a ‘hand-up’ and NOT a ‘hand-out’. They serve to make strong, self-sufficient, healthy moms and babies.
As the one year mark draws near I feel truly blessed to have met the women and children I have through this ministry. To hear their stories of what brought them here and to watch their growth as they progress is remarkable. Being able to preserve some of the most precious moments that can occur during pregnancy and that first year of life is a joy. But, to be able to capture those moments for someone who may otherwise not have the opportunity… to be able to show them “you are beautiful,” “you are strong,” “your body can do miraculous things,” and now you have given life to this perfect little being that will only be this little for moments. To give that kind of gift is so fulfilling. Preserving a memory, a snapshot in time to be treasured and loved for years to come. That brings me joy. That fills my heart. That is what keeps me on that volunteer list. No, not everyone is going to choose me. And that’s ok. But for those that have and for those that do, I hope they know that the time we have together blesses me just as much as I hope it blesses you.
Thank you, to all my Mommas past, present, and future; for sharing with me your strength and perseverance. Oh…and your baby snuggles too!
Nikki
Humble Sight Photography
For more information about The Shepherd’s Godparent Home and Nikki’s Hope, or to see their Shelter Wish List, visit their Facebook page at: https://www.facebook.com/TheShepherdsGodparentHome