Beauty & Self Love

May 23, 2017  •  Leave a Comment

Lets go on a journey together...

One where we talk about hard things and some really wonderful and powerful things too. Lets talk about you. Lets talk about how you feel about yourself. Lets talk about how you talk to yourself, talk about yourself, and how you treat yourself.

 

When was the last time you genuinely smiled in the mirror because the person looking back brought you joy? When was the last time you felt adequate, like you were enough for the people around you? 

A long time ago? Never?

Why? Why do we hate ourselves?

Really stop and think about that...contemplate it and dig deep. Why did you choose to one day start hating yourself?

 

I guarantee it wasn't always that way. When we were children, very young for some of us, we didn't get up in the morning and start berating ourselves about how we couldn't walk right, our food didn't make it our mouths properly, our eyebrows were uneven, our clothes didn't fit properly or match, that we had drool, snot, etc. spilling from our faces while we played and explored the world around us.

We all have those pictures where we wonder if our parents were fashion challenged based the outfits we had on...(be honest now!) But, we had clothes. We didn't care what they looked like. We were clothed. Whether they were new, handed down, clean or dirty, we were not concerned with their appearance. When we looked at the women in our lives, did we not dream of being like them? Caring for others as they did? Looking beautiful at 3 a.m. despite being sleep deprived while caring for us when we were sick? My mother was the epitome of beauty, love, and comfort in my eyes. She still is. And while I may not always feel that way about myself, my children remind me that they feel the same way about me, that I feel about my mother. 

Everyday is a new opportunity to love yourself. To treat yourself with the respect and kindness you bestow on the people around you. Lets be honest, sometimes perfect strangers get more grace and respect than you allow yourself. 

 

Stop it!

I've had to take a hard look at how I treat myself since my daughter was born. I never wanted her to lose her self-respect. I wanted her to grow knowing she was beautiful. That her body can do amazing things, and that her body and her outward beauty do not define her. She's strong. She's confident. She's intelligent. She's funny. Of course she's beautiful too. But, what I love most about her is she doesn't let other's opinions of her shatter her own self-worth. That is what I admire about her; because, that is what I struggled with (and still struggle with) the most.

Beauty to me, is no longer about what the world sees on the outside. Beauty is soul deep. It lies in the very core of our being. It's how we carry ourselves, how we treat ourselves and others, how deeply we love, and how freely we express our love to others. More importantly to ourselves. So even if it means you have to pretend to love all the things you've hated about yourself for so many years, you can fake it till I make it. And when you fail, you need to remember to forgive yourself for not succeeding, and get up and try again. 

 

Love your flaws. Love your scars.

Love your stretch marks, your brokenness, your worldly imperfections.

This body, this mind, this heart...they can do remarkable things. The decision you have to make is what remarkable things will you choose to do with them? Will you choose to be incredible, brave, and build yourself and others up and take on the world? Or will you choose to continue to hate them, break them, and hold them back from growth and opportunity?

There's a saying that you can't pour from an empty cup. So, take the time and spend the energy refilling your cup. Treat yourself kindly. Show yourself respect and grace. Take care of your body, mind, and soul. 

 

Your beauty is there.

That's what I want to capture.

That's what I want to show you.

You are so beautiful. 


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